This is really a weird situation one can only expect from politicians. So what is really happening is really not surprising. The EU has a strategy to deal with referendum results in member countries that they do not like and part of the strategy is covered in the following article from News24:-
"The British parliament's rejection of the Brexit agreement makes crashing out of the EU without a deal much more likely, the bloc said on Tuesday, as it warned there is no more it can do.
A spokesperson for Donald Tusk, the president of the European Council, said he regretted the result, but warned that from Brussels' viewpoint "it is difficult to see what more we can do".