Robin McDonald
Lives w/a Grey, a Pionus, a Cocker Spaniel & an Orange Kitty5y
African Greys are not “pets,” they are “companions;” there is a BIG difference. That is perhaps one of the first concepts a prospective Grey owner needs to consider. Greys are nothing like dogs or cats - animals who love you pretty unconditionally as long as you don’t abuse them. Studies show Greys have the intellectual capacity of a 3–5 year old, so while not like a toddler in many ways, in others, exactly like a toddler.
For example. Greys (and all parrots) NEED socialization - lots of it, every day, and since in the wild, Greys live in flocks, if you adopt a Grey into your family, YOU (and anyone else in your home) will become its flock. Like toddlers, Greys seek attention, any attention, and they will find a way to get it. If you don’t respond to their needs with “positive” attention, they will find a way to get “negative” attention - chewing something they know is “off-limits” like a windowsill, book, etc. or dumping the cat’s bowl onto the floor (ours actually thinks she’s “helping” the cat when she does this..).
We were fortunate to have an amazing Avian Vet at our local Vet Clinic, and she spent several hours with us on the phone when we were considering adding a Grey to our household, helping us understand the realities of living with a parrot in general, and a Grey in specific. There are thousands of parrots of all kinds living in Rescues in the US - people think they’re cute, like that they talk or whatever, and pet stores will sell to anyone, without looking at the likelihood of a successful experience for the bird or the owner. We were inexperienced w/birds, and were afraid we might not be able to care for a bird with a history, so we adopted a baby Grey, but knowing what we do now, I think we could have helped an abandoned or abused bird - although I wouldn’t give up our Mojo for anything - she makes us all smile at least 100 times every day - from her “Hi Ollie” when I uncover her sleep cage and carry her downstairs for her breakfast of oatmeal (w/LOTS of raisins…), snow peas, sugar snaps, carrots, red beets, grapes & squash, until I tuck her back in at night after a bedtime pistachio feast and a “snuggle,” - she roosts on my arm so I can “scritch” the feathers on her head & neck & sing (she prefers songs from “Sound of Music” at night…).
If you are considering a Grey, read as much as you can first, or plan a visit to someone who owns one (most owners would be happy to share their experiences). You’ll need to plan on spending lots of time with your Grey in order to gain her/his trust. Also, Greys live a long time, so the relationship you create is one that will continue throughout most of, or all of the rest of your life, including whatever changes occur - marriage, divorce, children, job changes, retirement, etc. If you cannot see yourself committing to care for a Grey through all those phases, and the unexpected changes as well, perhaps Grey ownership is not for you, or maybe you could consider adopting one of the thousands of older Greys in rescues - birds whose owners died, realized they weren’t cut out for bird care or just couldn’t continue to care for them for whatever reason.
Sharing our lives with our Grey has been incredible; Mojo is flighted (it’s sort of like having a 747 in the house). She’s only in her “big” cage if we’re out or someone who’s visiting is afraid of birds, and has a “triangle stand” in the kitchen for breakfast & “bird dinner” as well as one on the coffee table to join us for lunch and the dining room table where she enjoys bites of whatever we’re having for dinner. She’s a prodigious talker, whistler and singer - all those abilities that make Greys famous. We’re also lucky to have a great “parrot sitter” for when we travel or emergencies, and of course our incredible Avian Vet. All that said, parrots are not for everyone, but if your lifestyle is compatible, and you want a parrot companion, Greys are amazing little creatures, very attuned to your moods, fast friends with our cat and dog, and a great addition to our family.