Hi Ceradyne
The EU commission President nominee has always been decided by the heads of state of each member country. Although Weber was the leader of the largest bloc of MEPS (the EPP) in the EU parliament he had made enough enemies in various European capitals that his nomination was blocked and so was that of the next compromise candidate Timmermans.
Once the nominee is elected they have to be approved by the MEP's in parliament, MEP's elected by the people of Europe in the European elections.
Its true that Ursula von Der Leyen is not popular in Germany, but that's not really relevant, the German people alone don't get to decide who the next EU commission President but the heads of the EU member states and the elected MEP that comes from all member states.
I'm not gonna sit here and say the EU is a perfect institution without flaws. There is democratic gaps that should be reformed. Ideally the EU commission President should be an elected MEP, which isn't the case with Ursula von Der Leyen.
But its not that far away from how other democracies function. In the UK the prime minister is usually the leader of the largest political party (not always, Churchill during WW2 for example) and has to be an elected MP. But the public does not get to vote who is the leader of the party or who becomes prime minister. Nor does the public get to vote on who becomes a cabinet minister. That's decided by the leaders and members of the political party in power, likewise in my country. The UK also has an un-elected monarchy and the members of the House of Lords are un-elected. The degree of power they have of course if quite limited (but not totally powerless) and in some cases a member of the House of Lords have served as cabinet ministers.
Also I find it interesting that the group of countries that blocked Weber and Timmersman was blocked by France and the so called Visegrad 4 (Poland, Czech Republic, Solvakia and Hungry) . One criticism of the EU is that Germany has too much power in it and that the smaller countries don't have enough. The fact the Visegrad 4 where able to block the nominations shows that smaller member states do have a say in EU affairs.
You could take the position that the EU commission president must be an MEP and must be elected by a majority of the MEP's in the EU parliament, it would be the most democratic system. But you also have to admit that the fact member states can block nominations it gives lie to the the claim that EU has too much power at the expense of member states. You could argue the other way round in this exact case.